Easy Way to Get And Stay Slim. Mindset For Weight Loss

3. Attempt to improve well-being:

– praise, positive evaluation;

– consolation, encouragement.

4. Wrong questions:

– questions to gather additional information;

– questions to get away from the problem.

There are constructive means of conducting a conversation. They allow us to hear the person and understand his problem. The one who can listen is the best talker. These methods are presented below. We will learn to listen to each other and ourselves during our session.

Constructive methods of communication with a problematic person

1. Passive listening:

– keeping silence;

– empathic approval (“Uh-huh,” “Yeah, I understand,” nodding);

– “Gate-opening” (“Your story was so interesting. Would you mind to tell me something else?”).

2. Active listening:

pronouncing (the interlocutor repeats word for word statement of the partner. However, he can start with introductory phrases:

“From what I understand…”, “In other words…”, “In your opinion…”);

– paraphrasing (the interlocutor reproduces the statement of the partner in short, generalized form, summarizing the most significant things in his words. He can start with introductory phrases: “As I understood, your main ideas are…”, “So…”);

– the interlocutor tries to derive a logical consequence from the statements of the partner or to put forward an assumption regarding the reasons for the statement of the partner. At the same time, he can begin with an introductory phrase (“If we proceed from what you said, then it turns out that…”, “Apparently, you think so because…”).

Olga Vladimirovna Tsyganova, 28, economist, lost 110 lbs I was very lucky with the group. There were only nine of us, as it was a morning group. I felt like a part of the team. There was a pleasant and comfortable atmosphere. The others were very understanding. I was finally able to talk about things that bothered me. I listened to others and realized that I was not the only one in the world facing this problem. We’ve got everything in the class: laughter, tears, and interesting discussions. I went out inspired, charged with a lot of positive energy. That’s when I understood: “I can do it!”

Things leading to eating disorder

– Now we’ll discuss the following topic: “The typical scheme of eating disorder.”

– Should we write it down?

– Yes. You have to write it down. To make the explanation more entertaining, I’ll tell you a fairy-tale. Once good people told me a fairy-tale. Now I tell it from time to time at my sessions. It’s a story about a woman. Would you mind it, Victor?

– Me? No!

– Fine. So, it’s a fairy-tale about a woman. She is not twenty. She is not sixty… How old is she?

– Forty.

– OK. Forty. Fine. Her name was Zina. Has she got a family?

– Of course.

– It’s a nice fairy-tale. Husband and children?

– If the tale is nice, then she’s got all of them.

– Yes, she’s got a husband and children.

– ☺

– Who knows?

– So, Ksenya has got another idea: “Why are you so sure that the fairy-tale is kind-hearted if the woman has got a husband?” You should see Victor’s face now.☺

– ☺

– OK. She’s got a husband. How many children?

– Two.

– A couple of kids. What about pets? Cats or dogs?

– A cat.

– Sure.

– A cat. No dog. Right?

– ☺

– Right.

– No dog. So, the woman has got a cat, two children, and a husband. By the way, he is at the end of the list for some reason.

– ☺

– What does she do for a living?

– She is an accountant.

– Accountant as an option. Let’s generalize it. She works in the office. You know, there is a catchword “manager”, a person that you can find in every office.

– A manager.

– Yes, exactly. “A white-collar worker”. She is a manager. Has she got some excess weight at forty?

– Certainly.