Going to Extremes

He took a sip, feeling her eyes on him. The tea had a medicinal lemon and herb flavor. “I like it.”

“Great. Here’s more.” She handed him the tin, then swept past him to fling open his curtains, washing the room in late-afternoon light. She sank into a chair at the table under the window and dug into the pastry bag for two large muffins, extending one to him. “They’re healthy, don’t worry. Bran and oatmeal.” She took a huge bite of her muffin. “I only eat when I’m anxious.”

Dan put the tea tin and the cup she’d brought him on the table and sat across from her.

“Dry as dust.” She made a face, then glanced at his tea. “Mind if I make myself some tea?”

“No, no. Make yourself at home.”

She busied herself at the refreshment area and, while the water percolated through, talked about room service and how stale the in-room tea usually was. “Practically fossilized. I use raw sugar in mine. Sure you don’t want some more?”

“No, no. I’m fine.”

“I always add cream. It cancels the tannic acid, which can be a carcinogen. Did you know that?”

“I didn’t.”

“It’s in Kathleen’s book. Kathleen knows so many fascinating things.” She returned and sat, dunking her tea bag methodically in the mug while she talked. “So, anyway, what I wanted to talk about… Aren’t you going to eat your muffin?”

“I’d rather wait for dinner.” He rarely ate between meals, preferring a gentle hunger that made him appreciate each bite of food.

“I wish I had more self-control. I’m weak with food and love.” She sighed. “I have to tell you that the friend with issues is really me.”

“I kind of got that idea.”

She smiled sheepishly. “I’m obvious, huh?” She tucked her hair behind both ears and folded her arms across her body, holding in both anxiety and excitement, he could tell. “Anyway, the guy’s name is Dylan and he lives in Chicago. I did, too, two years ago. We were in love. At least I thought we were. But then Dylan started disappearing on me.”

She gulped more tea, ate more muffin and kept talking. “He claimed he was just out with his friends, but then he got a message on his answering machine from a woman.”

“And you overheard it?”

She blushed. “I figured out his check-messages code, so I’d been anticipating a problem. You know, to brace myself? Checking now and then. Well, every day. Sometimes twice.”

He just looked at her.

“I know. Unhealthy sign, but my instincts were dead-on. There was a woman. I confronted Dylan, but he said I was trying to put him on a choke chain like a dog. I told him he was a dog—a bad, bad dog—but he said I should enjoy the time we had, we only have the present moment and other existential blah-blah.”

“So, what did you do after that?”

“I couldn’t hack it. Smelling another woman’s perfume in his place or finding a forgotten hair band on the sink just brutalized me. So I broke up with him. There was this amazing job in New York, so I went.”

“So, you made a decision to take care of yourself.”

“What else could I do? I was miserable, eating my roommates out of house and home. I would tell them to hide the good stuff, but I’d hunt it down and eat it anyway. Totally out of control.” She finished her muffin, then glanced at his.

“Help yourself,” he said.

“If you’re sure.”

He nodded. “So, you moved on…” he prodded her.

“Yes. To New York. And that’s been awesome. I love my job. I have friends. And I’m dating this guy Mark. He’s not exactly my type, but he’s always buying me gifts and flowers. And he listens to me. Dylan never listened. I think Mark wants to get serious. Which is all good…” She made another face. “This muffin is even drier than mine.” She tossed it into the trash basket.

“Mind if I check out your minibar?” she asked.

“By all means. Like you said, that’s what it’s there for.”

She shuffled through the contents of the small refrigerator and emerged with a packet of Lorna Doone cookies and a bag of Raisinettes. How did she keep her weight under control? Maybe she didn’t do anxious eating often.

She ripped open the candy bag and offered him some.

“No, thanks.”

“Oh, right. Waiting for dinner.” She put a few raisins on the cookie and wolfed it down. “Where was I?”

“It was all good?”

“Yes. But just before we left New York, I called Dylan to tell him I was coming. And he was so happy about it. And I do want to see him again. So much. I’m afraid that going to New York was just running away from our problems. But maybe that’s fooling myself and I should let it go.”

“That’s a serious dilemma that many people—”

“It’s like sticking your tongue in a sore place on your cheek, you know? How you can’t leave it alone?”

“In my experience, after a breakup, there is a tendency to want a chance to revisit the relationship.”

“That’s from the ‘Love…the Ultimate Imbalance’ chapter in your book, isn’t it?”

“Yes, and—”

“But maybe until I say goodbye to Dylan, I can’t say hello to Mark. Does that make any sense?”

“That’s a possibility, but—”

“But I could be rationalizing. Except Dylan sounds so different. People can change, can’t they?”

He opened his mouth, but she kept going.

“I know. People are basically who they are. If Dylan is toxic to me, I’ll get my heart broken again.”

While she paused to prepare another raisin-topped cookie, he managed to say, “So, you’re concerned about how it will be to see him again?”

“Yeah and I know you’ll tell me not to sleep with him.” She took the cookie in one bite and washed it down with tea.

“If it distorts your sense of self and direction, then—”

“Don’t do it. Right.” She spilled the last of the cookies from their package onto the table and dunked one in the tea. “Except our best times were in bed, Dan. How will I know we’re over if I don’t sleep with him?”

He didn’t speak. What was the point? His role seemed to be sounding board and refreshment source.