Dialogues And Silences

Faced with this, the normal thing would be to possess the necessary strength to allow ourselves the luxury of not having a single negative thought. But of course, this is easy to say, almost impossible to achieve for those of us who are like this.

Eastern philosophy maintains that the way of thinking is a habit, and that, therefore, like all habits, it can be changed. But it is a process that needs training and time, because the only thing we truly have control over is our mind, and if we have known how to "educate it" to think negatively, we can also "un-educate it" to teach it to think positively. Although it is not an easy task, but rather the opposite, it is more like an authentic task of titans… But not impossible. Let's see:

Why for a negative person can any trifle—an opinion, a pain, bad weather—become a personal drama? Well simply because we don't know how to control our opinion about these facts, since we cannot control the facts themselves. In reality, the only thing that separates happy and optimistic people from sad and pessimistic ones is the way of facing the facts, of interpreting and processing life's circumstances. When one manages to control one's thoughts and the way of reacting to life's events, one begins to control one's destiny; that is, one begins to choose what one wants to be and how one wants to live.

Choose how you want to be and how you want to live

But how to control negative thoughts, how to avoid such overwhelming and harmful reactions. Well I only know one way: with an enormous will to change, and with a practice bordering on obstinacy, in addition to with an analysis as rational as possible of each situation.

Avoid negative thoughts with the strength of your willpower

Personally one of the cases that most affect and influence my own negativity is the way of perceiving and confronting the problems that arrive, or those that I think are going to arrive, because on many occasions those that worry me so much then don't occur in reality. But if when a real problem arrives I am capable of stopping to analyze to the point of asking myself how I should confront it and how I have to act, the relief that arises is immediate. And it always comes through the same action routine: faced with the problem one must focus and not get distracted; that is, confront what the causes are and the immediate applicable remedies and not get lost in the weeds with what has no immediate remedy—a gangrenous leg is cut off, afterwards one thinks about the prosthesis—.