Gypsy Wedding Dreams: Ten dresses. Ten Dreams. All the secrets revealed.

Gypsy Wedding Dreams: Ten dresses. Ten Dreams. All the secrets revealed.
Thelma Madine

Thelma Madine, star of Channel 4’s Big Fat Gypsy Weddings and fairy godmother of Gypsy weddings, reveals the drama, secrets and surprises involved in ten gypsy weddings.Through the tales of ten elaborate Gypsy wedding dresses Thelma offers a new window onto the remarkable world of ten brides and their extravagant weddings. For Thelma’s young brides, a wedding dress is more than just a pretty white gown; for some it is a symbol of their fairytale-like hopes and dreams for the future, for others a mark of a long-standing friendship with a non-traveller they have welcomed into their community, and for a small group a sad reminder of day they know will never come.With each chapter based around the secrets and incredible truths hidden behind a different dress, Thelma’s second book is packed full of fascinating new stories. More drama, more dresses, more gypsies.By turns laugh-out-loud funny and achingly sad, and brimming with hilarious anecdotes and larger-than-life characters, Thelma’s book will amaze, amuse and entertain.Beautifully designed, and fully-illustrated throughout, it is crammed with glossy new photos, revealing never-before-seen dresses adorned with thousands of Swarovski crystals and hundreds of LED lights – an ideal gift for fans of Channel 4’s Big Fat Gypsy Weddings, My Big Fat Gypsy Valentine and Thelma’s Gypsy Girls.

Contents

TITLE PAGE (#u7569af35-5efe-56f8-88d0-6575b81d215c)

DEDICATION (#ufab04fc6-a510-5519-8438-54ff42fc9c4a)

INTRODUCTION (#ulink_b2968708-eccb-51da-a4d4-1295b328e719)

CHAPTER ONE (#ulink_791bc85e-e79a-5e1f-a056-3e429345ed55)

Inspirations (#ulink_791bc85e-e79a-5e1f-a056-3e429345ed55)

CHAPTER TWO (#ulink_1f353793-bede-5e0d-b3c5-c8a4c53f9fe4)

The Cryer (#ulink_1f353793-bede-5e0d-b3c5-c8a4c53f9fe4)

CHAPTER THREE (#ulink_f563a605-6783-55ca-a929-c25cebc00a59)

The Con (#ulink_f563a605-6783-55ca-a929-c25cebc00a59)

CHAPTER FOUR (#litres_trial_promo)

A Rathkeale Wedding (#litres_trial_promo)

CHAPTER FIVE (#litres_trial_promo)

The Bride Who Couldn’t Decide (#litres_trial_promo)

CHAPTER SIX (#litres_trial_promo)

The Game-Changer (#litres_trial_promo)

CHAPTER SEVEN (#litres_trial_promo)

The Family Rivalry (#litres_trial_promo)

CHAPTER EIGHT (#litres_trial_promo)

The Bumpy Road to the Altar (#litres_trial_promo)

CHAPTER NINE (#litres_trial_promo)

The Bride Without a Wedding (#litres_trial_promo)

CHAPTER TEN (#litres_trial_promo)

Me and My Big Mouth (#litres_trial_promo)

ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS (#litres_trial_promo)

COPYRIGHT (#litres_trial_promo)

ABOUT THE PUBLISHER (#litres_trial_promo)

Introduction (#ulink_e6bf39a7-d9b2-5f84-801b-a66268bec754)

I have enjoyed working with the traveller community ever since they first started coming to me, 20 years ago, when I worked on a market stall in Liverpool. I’ve made some wonderful friends among them, and throughout my career, I’ve felt their support and warmth.

I’ve done proms, First Communions, engagement parties, all sorts … But of course the one area that has had the biggest impact – on both my business and my personal life – is the weddings. It’s through preparing for these big days with the girls that I’ve got to know both them and their way of life better than when I’m putting together any other type of creation. Because gypsy weddings are not like non-traveller weddings, from the intricate specifics of their customs and traditions to the unbelievable imagination and determination that they put into getting the wedding dresses and outfits that will bring their dreams to life. Each time I take an order for a new wedding, I am not just accepting a new piece of business: I am beginning a new journey.

But some of those journeys have been bumpy rides, to say the least! Along the way there have been tears, tantrums and tiaras. I’ve seen girls threaten to cut all their hair off if they don’t get their own way and I’ve had them pleading and begging with me to keep their darkest secrets. And I’ve seen families reach the brink of collapse through bitter feuding about the tiniest details and exchanged the level of kindness with them that I would normally reserve for my own family. Yet despite all the dramas and the heartache that I’ve seen along the way, there isn’t a single experience that I would take back; each and every wedding has been a mini saga of its own, and I’ve loved them all.

The stories included here are my Top Ten most memorable weddings. They’re not all about the dress, although there are dresses here that have changed the course of my career and my dressmaking business Nico, forever.

And they’re not just about the wedding day itself either; after all, for many of these brides, it’s the journey to the altar – and all of the negotiating and heartache that this can involve – that is the biggest part of the picture. But every single one of these ten weddings has been something really special to me. They’re a real window into the worlds of both Nico and all its chaotic splendour and the travelling community and its secretive ways. Whether you laugh, cry or simply enjoy the gorgeous dresses, I hope you get as much fun out of these ten most extraordinary gypsy weddings as I have.

To the happy couples!

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As a dressmaker, it’s my job to know which are the biggest trends in the fashion industry. I think everyone knows that the one dress that has had the biggest impact on popular culture in recent times is the Sarah Burton for Alexander McQueen dress designed for Kate Middleton’ s marriage to Prince William on 29 April 2011. And yet the one dress that I have never, ever been asked to copy for a traveller wedding is that very same dress.

They might not always dress to your taste or mine, but there is no denying that the traveller community have their own sense of style and it’s completely uninfluenced by what might be driving looks on the high street or in high fashion. It’s incredible, really. These days you can hardly open a magazine without finding an image and an accompanying article telling you what a style icon Kate Middleton is, but the gypsy community has been left entirely untouched by her taste, despite several of them coming to me every week and telling me that they want to look like a princess. Yes, the traveller girls dream of being a princess for a day, but they definitely do not wish to be a princess in nude patent leather courts! Really, it’s hard not to admire this when you see a million others copying Kate’s style, but what always fascinates me is what does actually influence them. Travellers don’t go to clubs like other girls, they don’t see the same websites; they don’t really read fashion magazines, preferring the fantasy worlds of colouring books and dolls. And some of them cannot read so they are totally unaffected by advertising or fashion talk in magazines. Not one of them has ever come in and asked me to make them look like a pop star – we have had the odd Lady Gaga-influenced request but never anyone wanting to look like Katy Perry or one of The Saturdays. Instead they see shapes and colours that they like, and that’s what leads them to make the decisions for their special day.

As time passes, and I’ve seen more and more brides come through the doors at Nico, I have come to realise that what these girls are looking for is not a dress but a costume. They don’t want to look like the most beautiful version of themselves on their wedding day, they want to look like someone else entirely. Nothing should reflect their normal day-to-day lives or chime in with any sense of style that they might usually stick to; they want to take on a different personality entirely, to be something ‘other’ than usual, not ‘better’.

Sometimes the girls want to use brands that they associate with wealth, such as Swarovski, Christian Dior or Baby Phat, but sometimes it’s just brands with logos that the girls like. In the past we have been asked to incorporate brand names or logos onto the wedding dresses themselves, but we always try and change them a little so as not to infringe copyright. I don’t think the travellers really want to persuade people that those are the brands they’re wearing; they just want to make the point that it’s where their taste lies. One of our biggest requests is for the exotic pink wedding dress from the 1980s Eddie Murphy film, Coming to America. It might seem like a bizarre reference but if you look closely, that dress, with its gold headdress and huge pink swagged skirts, is something truly spectacular. I have made ones like that for weddings, proms and First Communions – it’s an all-time favourite.

One of the other inspirational superstars as far as these girls are concerned is Barbie – but not just any old Barbie, really specific ones. Where non-traveller girls might idolise ‘Safari Barbie’ or ‘Swimming Barbie’ – you know, the Barbies who actually do something – the traveller girls focus on two classics: ‘Bridal Barbie’ and ‘Barbie of Swan Lake’.

Neither does much beyond looking pretty and they don’t come with any kit or accessories, unlike some of the more action-focused ones, but both wear really traditional, floaty ballgown-type dresses.

The traveller girls play with Barbies a lot when they’re little and they also spend a lot of time drawing them, even when they get a bit older. When small cousins and sisters come into Nico with their older relatives – perhaps if they’re going to be bridesmaids or even a mini-bride (see Chapter 3 (#ulink_f563a605-6783-55ca-a929-c25cebc00a59)) – they always seem to have colouring books with them, and often they’re Barbie ones.

Now we all know that Barbie’s proportions are not normal, they’re cartoonish, but it’s that extreme femininity that the travellers go for – a tiny waist with the corset pulled in as tightly as possible, boobs as high as they can go and huge hips created by my now-famous skirts are the order of the day. These days, I almost don’t trust a traveller girl if she says she just wants a slim-fitting skirt!

I am frequently surprised to see that some of these girls don’t have automatically pointed feet just like Barbie when I’ve finished getting them ready for their big day.

Perhaps as a result of all this colouring-in, I often get really creative designs sent to me from the brides-to-be. It’s not unusual for them to have been keeping a little scrapbook of images for years, so when they come to place an order for their wedding dress they will bring in their own sketches of how they want it to look, complete with directions on what fabrics they want to use or how the skirts should hang.

I love seeing those images as they give me an idea of what is driving the girl’s dreams, who she really wants to be on the day and how I can help her to be that person. Sometimes I can even work out where a bride’s priorities lie just by looking at how firmly the pen has been pressed into the pad in different areas on the page – there’s nothing like direct access to a customer’s original idea to help create the perfect dress.

But there’s one brand name that influences designs even more than good old Barbie: Disney. Every time there’s a new Disney heroine out in the cinema, I make it my business to check what she looks like as I know I’ll be making versions of her gown for the next couple of years. Since my own little girl Katrina was born eight years ago, I often find myself taking her to the cinema for a ‘treat’ only to head down there with a sketchpad and pencil, keen to see what the lines on the dresses are.

After one Disney film came out Katrina was given a Disney doll, but I stole it to keep in the office for showing brides. It was too good to resist, and has proved every bit as useful as I’d hoped in helping to explain ideas to traveller girls!