The Narcissist Test: How to spot outsized egos ... and the surprising things we can learn from them
Dr Craig Malkin
What exactly is narcissism? An incurable disease set to ruin your future, a habit to be curbed, or a trait to be nurtured? And how can you tell if your partner, child, or even you are a narcissist? Dr Craig Malkin offers a new picture of narcissism, showing us why being called a ‘narcissist’ isn’t necessarily such a bad thing after all.Narcissism is all around us. We are a selfie-obsessed generation, surviving on a steady diet of watching reality shows that celebrate attention-seeking know-and-do-nothings and posting a whopping 500 million tweets a day to document our every thought and whim. But is narcissism really as bad as we have been led to believe?In this groundbreaking book, clinical psychologist Dr Craig Malkin offers a radically new picture of narcissism, defining it as a spectrum of self-importance, and explaining that everyone falls somewhere on the scale between utter selflessness and total arrogance. He reveals why it is essential to embrace some level of narcissism in order to maintain a healthy sense of self-worth. Feeling special, to a degree, can make us better lovers and partners, courageous leaders, and intrepid explorers.As supportive as it is illuminating, The Narcissist Test is the first and only book to distinguish between healthy and unhealthy narcissism, and offers clear, step-by-step guidance on how to promote the healthy kind in your partner, children, and in yourself. From advice tailored to parents, social media users and even schools, this is the definitive text to help you overcome the bad – and embrace the good – about feeling special.Dr Craig Malkin is a clinical psychologist hailing from Harvard with over two decades of experience helping individuals, couples and families.
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Contents
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Title Page (#u6c49812f-46a4-5655-ae85-327d63e3628c)
Copyright
Dedication (#u7a1bab9e-7679-5645-b1bd-defcd2cfe3a1)
Introduction
The Myth of Narcissus
PART I: WHAT IS NARCISSISM?
1 Rethinking Narcissism: Old Assumptions, New Ideas
2 Confusion and Controversy: How Narcissism Became a Dirty Word and We Found an Epidemic
3 From 0 to 10: Understanding the Spectrum
4 The Narcissism Test: How Narcissistic Are You?
PART II: ORIGINS: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY NARCISSISM
5 Root Causes: The Making of Echoists and Narcissists
6 Echoism and Narcissism: From Bad to Worse
PART III: RECOGNIZING AND COPING WITH UNHEALTHY NARCISSISM
7 Warning Signs: Staying Alert for Narcissists
8 Change and Recovery: Dealing with Lovers, Family, and Friends
9 Coping and Thriving: Dealing with Colleagues and Bosses
PART IV: PROMOTING HEALTHY NARCISSISM
10 Advice for Parents: Raising a Confident, Caring Child
11 SoWe: The Healthy Use of Social Media
12 A Passionate Life: The Ultimate Gift of Healthy Narcissism
Resources
References
List of Searchable Terms
Acknowledgments
About the Author