The Good Behaviour Book: How to have a better-behaved child from birth to age ten

The Good Behaviour Book: How to have a better-behaved child from birth to age ten
Martha Sears

William Sears

In THE GOOD BEHAVIOUR BOOK, Dr. William and Martha Sears, the paediatrics specialists whose books on birth, babies, and parenting have become widely praised best-sellers, provide a definitive guide to raising happy, well-adjusted, well-behaved children.Disciplining children means equipping them with the tools to succeed in life. In this unique guide, seasoned parents of eight, Bill and Martha Sears draw on personal experience and their professional knowledge as childcare experts to provide an authoritative approach to a broad range of disciplinary issues and practices.With focus on preventing behaviour problems as well as managing them when they arise, the Searses offer clear, practical advice on everything parents need to know about disciplining young children. Believing that discipline starts at birth, the Searses discuss baby discipline, disciplining the toddler, mother-father roles in modern parenting, saying no, self-esteem as the foundation of good behaviour, helping a child to express feelings, the constructive use of anger, good nutrition for good behaviour, and sleep discipline.On handling problem behaviour, the Searses cover sibling rivalry, spanking and alternatives to spanking, breaking annoying habits, and eliminating bothersome behaviours like whining and talking back. The Searses strongly advocate teaching children values like apologising and sharing, and explain how to deal with such issues as lying, stealing, and cheating.In addition, the Searses address building healthy sexuality and discipline in special situations such as after divorce and in the single-parent household.

the good behaviour book

How to have a better-behaved child

from birth to age ten

Dr William Sears and Martha Sears, R.N.

Edited by Caroline Deacon

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First published by Little, Brown and Company 1995

This revised and updated edition published in 2005 by Thorsons

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contents

Cover (#ue2217f0c-99e7-5818-9501-420b88f2200f)

Title Page (#u7d4d06ca-a2ce-50c3-9f7b-63edd671b723)

Copyright (#ue3892d60-59e4-5d5f-83a7-720e0daff800)

A Word About Discipline from Dr Bill and Martha (#u85980e6a-51d1-5c3e-9aaf-195f8c7eca70)

I: Promoting Desirable Behaviour (#ua1284f80-9816-5473-b925-872fc46d3ffe)

Chapter 1: (#ub30f935c-e844-5151-99a0-cb65a45fbc4a)Our Approach to Discipline (#ub30f935c-e844-5151-99a0-cb65a45fbc4a)

Styles of Discipline (#ulink_aafb4025-8074-57ed-8667-d72244850c88)

Discipline’s Top Ten – An Overview of This Book (#ulink_4a41de32-4c46-5a3c-9fc3-2f8671fb967d)

Chapter 2: (#uc08f4de2-a9eb-5013-ab6d-1b538ed66a29)Birth to One Year: Getting Connected (#uc08f4de2-a9eb-5013-ab6d-1b538ed66a29)

Martha and Matthew – How They Got Connected (#ulink_37386ace-3b4c-5ae7-90ea-a46f42aaca99)

Attachment Parenting – The Key to Early Discipline (#ulink_871eef34-f2dc-5896-865b-cb298a810cdc)

How Attachment Parenting Makes Discipline Easier (#ulink_7b7f8ebe-35a4-5559-b190-9902a085350a)

Chapter 3: (#u765d195b-8e83-56dd-a1c9-ab3765142e89)Understanding Ones, Twos, and Threes (#u765d195b-8e83-56dd-a1c9-ab3765142e89)

How Toddlers Act – And Why (#ulink_e8a92026-c93b-594b-85dd-f8128e14f3c9)

Talking with Toddlers: What They Can Understand, What They Can’t (#ulink_193f4314-5e41-509d-ac5c-0e44ec99d58b)

Channelling Toddler Behaviours (#ulink_66afbe6d-ec02-578a-b590-9908cc3adb01)

Providing Structure (#ulink_6726fbe6-3947-5dd8-8137-360c01576097)

Going from Oneness to Separateness: Behaviours to Expect (#ulink_e47c7203-a88c-5112-b33f-271c12876ba1)

Helping a Toddler Ease into Independence (#ulink_b0d9db96-02ea-5f35-a483-da3ef4482ff1)

From Two to Three (#ulink_3995bc50-8e1f-5a37-8bb6-97cd55938e07)

Discipline Gets Easier (#ulink_6b25f7c8-35cb-5c19-ab4b-5f8d6468ad48)

Chapter 4: (#u24045bf5-400c-5f54-aec9-e6dc21855a17)Saying no Positively (#u24045bf5-400c-5f54-aec9-e6dc21855a17)

The Importance of Saying No (#ulink_afdd7f29-4131-594a-9259-dafc2c42c262)

Creative Alternatives to “No” (#ulink_b3f1a69b-2261-58cc-9ed1-c6e899e00124)

Respectfully, No! (#ulink_888621b4-b853-54e4-874c-384eb9f4d14f)

Making Danger Discipline Stick (#ulink_710a53be-dc37-58a2-a681-4029979b3dfd)